Looking for help for my 7 year old next school year?

It's hard to answer this without specific information but here's a start. It sounded to me like he at this point has no identification and he is not receiving services. Request a Permission to Evaluate. Sign it and the school will complete an evaluation. If a Dr. diagnoses ADHD he is entitled to a 504. This will give him specially designed instruction to succeed in his class. You may need to get him an outside evalutation, ex neurological, or psychiatric, etc. The school will help you with this. Your insurance or state aid should help with the cost. If his academic needs require changes in curriculum needs and instruction at a slower rate then you should look at an IEP. Is he getting counseling to deal with his emotional needs? I have worked with several students with RAD and it's not readily accepted in the education field. It's a tough fight and behavioral techniques are very different. You need to find someone with experience in it. Look up Nancy Thomas as she has quite a bit of info out there. Behaviorally their needs are different than the average child with behavior/emotional issues. If you don't feel comfortable with your own knowledge in this situation seek an advocate to help you. Ask the school for a copy of the Procedural Safeguards Notice. good luck to you and kudos for taking care of your family. You rock!